APPENDICES
IDENTIFYING LIMITING BELIEFS IN SPECIFIC AREAS

This appendix provides lists of limiting beliefs which may be creating or contributing to specific problems areas that you or someone whom you are assisting might have. These should be used when you or the person with whom you are working has identified the problem area, and has found as many limiting beliefs as you can.

Identifying one's limiting beliefs is a learning and focusing process. Ideally, each individual will successfully identify the limiting beliefs he has regarding a particular area of his life. However, until a person has learned to relate his undesired experiences and problems to his limiting beliefs, he may not look deeply enough to find all of the relevant ones. So, when someone doesn't appear to have spotted all of his basic beliefs, which often come in a cluster or series, it can be helpful to suggest other limiting beliefs for his consideration to see which may apply. The higher the degree of empathy you establish with the person with whom you are working, the more successful this is likely to be. Even with lots of empathy, suggestions must be done judiciously, for some people have allowed the evaluations of other people to affect their lives, and may be defensive. They may resist or resent any remark or question that seems evaluative to them. It's best to simply say, "I don't know whether these would apply to you or not, but if a person, such as Sam, (the stuffed animal being used as a prop) were creating or allowing the undesired experiences we've been discussing, might he have a limiting belief of (such and such)?"

If the person says no, accept his answer. Don't try to push him to accept a belief you've suggested, or infer that you think he should. If it really is one of his limiting beliefs, he may either recognize it when it is suggested, or it may become real to him at a later time.

So, the suggested limiting beliefs which are listed in the appendices are only that; suggestions. They may or may not be pertinent to the person with whom you are working. Suggest them judicially, and only as needed to assist the person with whom you are working to find more basic limiting beliefs.



APPENDIX A
GENERIC LIMITING BELIEFS THAT AFFECT OUR LIVES

There are many generic limiting beliefs, some of which may be from what lung called the "collective unconscious," beliefs we appear to all share. Some of these involve how we and mankind choose to perceive the world in which we live. Existence simply is. As each of us conceives or views it, we may choose to believe that we are separate from it, i.e. we are the subject or viewer and what we view is the object. We may also choose to distinguish ourselves from our body, mind, emotions and spiritual essence in this way, i.e. "My body, my mind, my spirit or soul, etc. We may also assign positive (desirable) or negative (undesirable) judgements to aspects of existence. Thus we may view it dualistically. However, sages and metaphysicians from the dawn of recorded history have pointed out that existence is non dualistic, and that it is only through our perception and categorization that we view it as positive or negative. In more recent time quantum physics has verified their perceptions.

As we find and change our limiting beliefs of a generic nature, we may begin to perceive existence in a less dualistic manner. In his revealing book, NO BOUNDARIES, Ken Wilbur provides a wealth of insights into the non dual perspective of existence, and how viewing it in this manner can bring about greater harmony and insight into one's life.

There are also many other widely held beliefs which are passed from parents or teachers to children, from teenager to teenager and from person to person in the society. The following list is made up of beliefs that may be limiting you or your client. Where you find they are applicable, change them to positive ones. Some typical ones are:

Aspects of existence are unknowable.

It is better not to know too much.

I am separate from my body, my mind, my emotions and/or my soul or spirit.

My life span as a being is finite or I'll only live so long.

As a being, I am transient.

I am temporal.

I am separate from others.

I am separate from other parts of existence.

I am separate from my body and/or my mind.

The future is all that matters.

The past is very real.

I am bound or finite.

I am controlled by time.

I never have enough time.

I am controlled by fate.

My future is determined by my destiny.

The events in my life are controlled by karma.

Love is dangerous, or a trap.

Loving is weak or love is feminine.

It's not OK to change your mind, or dangerous to do so.

It's dangerous to take a chance.

If you stick your neck out you'll get it chopped off.

It's better not to expect too much.

It's safer to do what others do.

Play it safe.

Get permission before doing anything.

Obey or be punished.

I am my own worst enemy.

It's a dangerous world, and anything can happen.

Things never come easy.

I always manage to goof it up.

I can't rely on myself, and need to always get advice.

I have to be in control.

It's not OK to push yourself forward.

Others know best.

Always think of others first.

You have to earn success.

It's not OK to receive without earning it.

Success would be likely to go to my head.

Success seldom if ever lasts.

People resent your success.

To succeed someone else must lose.

There is only so much success to go around.

There is never enough to go around.

My self-esteem depends on being more successful than others.

I wasn't destined or meant to be successful.

I am superior to others, or I am inferior to others.

I have to be perfect.

It's dangerous to be a leader.

It's weak to display emotions.

No one likes a worrier.

It's better to keep your problems to yourself.

Don't trust others; or you can't trust others.

People always or usually let you down.

There's nothing to life but struggle.

You'll get your rewards in heaven, not here.

One can't be joyful or happy when there's so much misery.

Spend it now, you can't take it with you.

I can't overcome my background.

My particular limitations are hereditary and I can't change them.

You can't believe anything you see or hear.

People are out to get what they can from you.

Love is a trap.

I'll always be a child or irresponsible.

There's a limit to how much you can know.

I am only human.

It's not safe to trust or I can't trust.

There is no justice.

Don't expect or ask for too much.

We all lose in the end.

There is no purpose to life.

It's better to be dead.

I'm bad or evil.

I'm trapped

There is no hope for the future or it's useless to hope.

Life is frustrating.

I am fragile or I have to be careful.

APPENDIX B
LIMITING BELIEFS RELATING TO FINANCIAL DIFFICULTIES

The following limiting beliefs relate to financial difficulties or problems, and finding and changing the ones which apply will assist in improving the conditions.

1. I don't deserve money or I'm not deserving.

2. I deserve to be denied or deserve to be punished.

3. I have or am filled with guilt or shame.

4. Wealth might go to my head.

5. I can't trust myself or my judgement with money.

6. My family and/or friends are not well off and might not accept me if I were wealthy.

7. If I were too successful I'd lose friends.

8. I'm limited because of my poor background.

9. If I were rich, people would always be trying to get something from me.

10. If I were wealthy, I wouldn't know who my true friends were.

11. If I were rich people would only like me for my money.

12. You have to struggle to get and/or to keep money, i.e., it doesn't come easily.

13. Easy come, easy go; or if I had it I'd just lose it.

14. I'm just not lucky or you have to be lucky to get it.

15. Having money or wealth involves too much responsibility.

16. It's dangerous to have wealth or money.

17. Rich people are greedy, schmucks, etc.

18. It's easier for a camel to get through a needle's eye than it is for a rich man to get to heaven, or it's not spiritual to be rich or to have attention on money.

19. People sell their souls for money.

20. Money is a false God.

21. Wealth is a trap or you can become a slave to money.

22. I couldn't be rich while others are hungry; I'd feel guilty if I had a lot more than others.

23. People with wealth are lonely.

24. There's not enough money to go around or it's scarce.

25. I'd become a slave to money.

26. Money is bad or evil.

27. Money is filthy lucre.

28. Money and/or wealth are corrupting.

29. I couldn't enjoy it unless others had it too.

30. Money is a trap.

31. For me to be rich, others would have to be poor.

32. You have to hold on to or hoard money.

33. Becoming wealthy is an end objective or goal.

34. Money is all-important.

35. I can't do anything without money.

36. People only respect you for your money.

37. Being penniless is worse than death.

38. I couldn't survive without money.

39. Money is a measure of my value.

40. Money is power.

41. There's nothing worse than being poor.

42. It's not OK to spend.

APPENDIX C
LIMITING BELIEFS WHICH MAY BE THE SOURCE OF PROBLEMS AT WORK OR BUSINESS

Get the nature of the problem specifically. Keep in mind that whatever the complaints are said to be, they are very likely to be projections, i.e. feeling pressured is often a person's drive which has been misowned and assigned elsewhere, i.e. a person desires to get something done, but gets distracted. Then when a senior asks about it, the person may feel pressured. Some of the following questions may be applicable, depending on the nature of the problem.

1. I'm being pressured or driven. In addition to asking what limiting beliefs a person might have, particularly about him/herself to feel pressured or driven, useful questions to ask would be, "What is your own desire or drive in the area?" "What has blunted this drive or distracted you from it?" "What would someone have to believe to have their drive blunted or to be distracted?"

2. Someone is trying to control me, or control is bad. For this negative belief ask, "What aspect of your life is out of control?" "What in your life are you failing to control to your satisfaction?" Find what belief a person might have that would cause him to resent control, or to feel out of control.

3. I have to control everything or be in control. Find out what aspects of others or the universe he can't trust. Ask, "What can't you trust about yourself?" "What are your beliefs about the motives and/or perversity of others? Then, depending on the answer, "What motives might you have that you can't trust?"

4. I'm being exploited. To explore what beliefs may be underneath this belief, questions of the type: "Might he believe that he is powerless?" "Who or what might you be exploiting or taking advantage of?" "What talents or abilities have you wanted to develop in yourself but haven't to your satisfaction?" "What would a person's limiting beliefs likely be that would cause him to not develop his abilities or talents as fully as desired?"

5. I'm a martyr, or I always get the bad assignments or too much is expected of me. To find what beliefs a person might have to be creating these experiences you might ask, "Might a person creating or allowing these experiences believe that he is powerless, a victim, a pawn, not worth much, not have much self esteem, am a martyr, etc."

6. No one understands me. (Check to see who or what he doesn't understand, particularly about himself, and then locate the underlying belief; i.e. "What would someone have to believe about himself to not understand himself?" "What do you believe about your own ability to understand?" "What is not understandable about yourself, or what don't you understand about yourself?"

7. Don't get along with fellow employees, ask, "What would someone have to believe, particularly about himself to not get along with fellow employees? Might he believe that he was unlikable? If so, what might he believe is unlikable about him? Or might he believe he is better than or lesser than others? Or that if others succeed he wouldn't look good or would lose out? Or that he is the only one who cares or is competent?

8. Might a person having problems at work believe:

a. I'm dumb or slow.

b. I'm unable,

c. I'm irresponsible.

d. I lack energy or drive.

e. There is too much competition. If so, what might someone believe about himself to feel that competition was too much?

f. What I have to offer isn't valuable or others don't value it.

g. There's no demand for my services or what I have to offer.

h. No one is hiring or buying.

i. Conditions are bad all over.

j. No matter what I make it will go for taxes.

k. There is no way to get ahead.

1. I don't have the background or education for it.

m. People discriminate against people of my background and/or ethnic group. Explore this to find any limiting beliefs that he might have about himself that would cause him to create or allow discriminating experiences. Also, find out what limiting beliefs he has about his background and/or ethnic group.

n. I can't afford to promote or promotion doesn't pay.

o. I'm not interested in what I'm doing and/or am bored. (Ask, "What would a person believe about himself to not be interested in what he is doing, or to be doing what he's not interested in? Might he believe that he is worthless, doesn't deserve, is a nothing, lacks self trust, is trapped, has no choice, has no future, is a robot, or his desires don't matter?")

p. Others have fixed opinions or beliefs that are not workable. (Ask, "What might a person believe about himself to feel threatened by other's opinions?" "Might a person believe that his self esteem and/or self worth depended on others agreeing with him?" "Might he believe that he has to be right, that he knows best, or that he can't get his viewpoints across, that if others are right then he is wrong, that he is in competition with others, that others are a threat, or that his sense of worth and/or identity depends on being right?"

APPENDIX D
FINDING A JOB

Use the following questions to help a person find and change his limiting beliefs regarding getting a job.

1. I lack qualifications or skills.

2. I don't have the right background.

3. I lack self-esteem.

4. I lack self-confidence.

5. I can't trust myself.

6. I lack self worth.

7. I have a poor self-image.

8. I don't come across well.

9. I don't have the energy or drive.

10. I don't really know what I want to do. Find out what a person might believe about himself to not know what to do. Also, find what excites him in life, and what his limiting beliefs may be that keep him from pursuing what excites him. Also, find out if he has had purposes which were thwarted, and what limiting beliefs he may have adopted at that time.

11. There are just no openings.

12. No one is hiring.

13. Work is drudgery.

14. Work is a form of slavery.

15. I never get the breaks.

16. I don't want to work to make someone else rich.

17. I'd rather stay on welfare.

18. You can't get ahead anyway.

APPENDIX E
POOR SELF IMAGE

Use the following questions as a guide to assist a person to find and change his limiting beliefs regarding his self image.

1. I am ugly.

2. I have a poor personality.

3. I am a poor conversationalist or I don't know what to say.

4. I have to prove myself.

5. I'm shallow, or lack depth.

6. I don't have much to offer or I'm not competent.

7. I come from an inferior background or from an unpopular ethnic group.

8. I'm not well educated.

9. I'm poor.

10. I lack manners or etiquette.

11. I don't trust myself.

12. I lack self-confidence.

13. I lack self-esteem.

14. I'm not acceptable.

15. I'm not capable or competent.

16. I'm bad or evil.

17. I'm inconsistent.

18. I'm evasive.

19. I lack ambition or drive.

In addition to asking the type of questions above, ask the person or yourself to do the following: "Get out a pad of paper and write whatever comes to your mind without judgements or critical reviews. At the top of the page put down "My General Image or My Image." Just write and keep writing without stopping to think, letting it just be a free flow. Don't try to talk it out, because your critical, left brain will move in and take over. lust keep writing until you feel it's done. Then put it down for at least a couple of hours, or a day. After that, read it critically. Take a pen with another colored ink and mark out what isn't applicable. Analyze it as objectively as you can. When you've reworked it, write a paragraph (at least two sentences) that describes you. Then distill the essence of this paragraph into one sentence and then into one word.

Next, find five words ending in "ing" that support this one word, for example, blaming, taking, pitying, fearing, etc. These give substance to the one word. You don't want labels. Blaming is a state of being. "I'm a blamer is a judgement." You want a state of being.

Then, think about how this image serves you and spot any limiting beliefs that you may have which justify it, or reasons why you wouldn't want to let it go. As you do, change them.

Now, say over and over again with fervor and zest, "I deny it, I refuse it." These are messages which communicate to the subconscious. Use your right hand to make a cutting motion over your left shoulder as a gesture of cutting it off. Then get into the shower. Imagine it washing away. Then forgive yourself for having created the image. Let all who should forgive you do so.

Next, generate a new image. Pick one word to name the new image that you want. Then pick five words ending in 'in"' to support this new word such as loving, respecting, etc. Next, expand this to a paragraph and then to pages and pages and really feel it as you do. Creating the feelings is very important. Ask yourself' How would this person get out of bed?" "How would a self confident person do this?" You need to do everything that a self confident person does as he would do it? Feel it. Ask yourself, "flow would a caring person do this?"

Visualize yourself with this new image in your various activities in life. See other people interacting with you as you have this new image. As you do, feel it and make it real.

Next, go into a meditative state just as you do for changing limiting beliefs, relive your childhood with this new image. Create a childhood in your imagination that fits with, supports and would logically lead to this new image. Remember that the past is only a mental recording which you are at liberty to change as you desire. Visualize other people interacting with you with this new image. Feel it.

It is important to repeat this exercise any time that you find that your life isn't going the way you'd like it to. As you find limiting or negative thoughts, find what the underlying beliefs are, and change them to positive ones. By doing this you can reestablish your focus on your desired image and get back on the track you want to be on.

Keep a diary of the changes that you experience in your life in the area of your new image. If the changes aren't Occurring to the degree you'd like, repeat the process and really "own" the new image by really visualizing and feeling it. Put slips of paper in places you will see them to remind yourself of it.

APPENDIX F
LIMITING BELIEFS THAT MAY BE
THE SOURCE OF DIFFICULTIES IN LEARNING.

Before checking on the following limiting beliefs, it's wise to find out from the person what his aspirations are in life. If these are not defined, a person may not have a real interest in studying subjects that have little interest or excitement for him. If this appears to be the case, or is an element in the problem, it's important first to assist the person in identifying what subjects or activities are of real interest to him. Ask him to tell you what is most important to him in his life, in order of importance, and also, what have been the most exciting experiences he has had in life. For each of the exciting times, find what were his feelings at the beginning of the experience, and why these were important. Then, ask where each of these fit on the list of importances. Out of this data, help the person distill what his real aspirations are.

Next, find and change the limiting beliefs that he has about studying or learning and change the limiting ones.

1.    I'm dumb.

2.   I'm stupid,

3.   I can't understand things.

4.   I have a low I.Q.

5.   Studying is a waste of time. Also, find out what isn't.

6.   Good students are isolated, squares, introverted, unpopular or considered egg heads.

7.   It's hard to concentrate or control my attention. (Find out what his attention is on, and then explore for limiting beliefs regarding the area of distraction.)

8.   I can't learn or learning is hard for me.

9.   I can't remember what I study. Find out what he can remember. Then what type of things he can't remember. Find the limiting beliefs that make the difference.

10.  I don't have to know this stuff to succeed.

11.  What I'm studying doesn't relate to my life.

12.  Studying is no fun or is boring.

13.  It's better or OK to study just enough to get by.

14.  I don't want to stand out. (Find the underlying beliefs that would cause a person not to want to stand out, i.e. "What do you believe would happen if you did stand out?")

15.  Many of the most successful people are not educated.

16.  I can be successful whether I learn in school or not.

17.  What's taught in school has little practical value.

18.  You can only learn by doing.

19.  I already know all I need to know.

20.  What have you wanted to learn and haven't been able to? (If there is something, ask: What beliefs would a person have that would make it difficult for him to learn what he wanted to learn?

21.  I've got no interest in what I'm studying. (Also ask what does he have an interest in learning or studying; and also, what would someone have to believe about himself to be studying something of no interest to him?

22.  No one in my family has been a good student.

23.  Studying is not where it's at. Find out where he considers that it is at.

24.  Studying is a waste of time.

25.  There are too many words I don't understand. Find out what the words are that he doesn't understand, particularly the early or basic ones in the subject, and work out a program to get them defined and clarified.

26.  You can always get by pretending you know.

27.  I dope off when I study. Find the words or concepts that he doesn't understand and get them defined and clarified.

28.  I can't concentrate when I study. Find any words or concepts that he doesn't understand and get them defined and clarified.

29.  Study is punishment.

30.  Studying exposes me.

31.  Studying makes me look bad.

APPENDIX G
LIMITING BELIEFS WHICH MAY CAUSE PROBLEMS IN A RELATIONSHIP

First, establish what each individual's personal aspirations are in life, and where these are not really being furfilled to his satisfaction. Find out what their limiting beliefs are that are keeping them from identifying their aspirations, and moving toward achieving them. Once these are identified, find each partner's beliefs about him self that are being reflected in what he is blaming the other person for, or are reflected in his discontent and frustration with himself.

1. What would a person have to believe to not identify and define his aspirations in life?

2. What would a person have to believe about himself to not be focusing on and moving forward to realize his aspirations?

3. Might he believe that I am unimportant, that I don't matter, that I'm not responsible for my life, that I'm a nothing, that I have no value, that I am irresponsible, that nothing matters, that my life is not worth living, that there is no purpose, that I've given up, that I'm a victim, that I deserve to be punished?

4. Ask each person to make a list of the things for which he is blaming his partner, and for aspects of his partner which are irritating. Take each of these and regarding it, ask:

a. What aspect of you does (subject of blame) reflect?

b. What beliefs, particularly about yourself, might that aspect reflect, or what would you have to believe about yourself to create that aspect?

c. In what ways might you be doing to yourself, as revealed by your mental, emotional or physical condition that for which you are blaming your partner?

d. What beliefs might you have about yourself that would cause you to do this to yourself?

5. What beliefs would someone likely have about himself to endure or be victimized by a partner for the things for which he is blaming his partner?

6. What are the conflicting thoughts you have which make it difficult to create your relationship? What are the underlying beliefs you have which may cause this conflict?

7. Where do you fall short of measuring up to your own or your partner's expectations? What beliefs might a person likely have that would cause him to feel that he didn't measure up?

8. What do you feel that you need to withhold from your partner? What are the basic limiting beliefs about yourself that would cause you to withhold this? Would it be I'm guilty, I'm destructive, I'm insensitive, I'm selfish, I'm a victim, I'm sly, I'm evasive, I'm a cheater, I'm a betrayer, I'm unfaithful, I lack self-trust, self-esteem, self-confidence, character, etc?

9. What beliefs do you have by which you justify creating these characteristics?

10. What beliefs may be inhibiting you from forgiving yourself or your partner?

11. What beliefs may be inhibiting you from feeling genuine gratitude toward your partner?

12. What beliefs do you have that make it difficult to create intimacy and/or closeness in your relationship?.

13. Imagine yourself actually being your partner, and as your partner, based on what he is experiencing, list what are his limiting beliefs about him or herself and about you. (Then, visualize being him or her, i.e., be him, or her, go into the room of beliefs, and as your partner, change his/her limiting beliefs to positive ones.) This will decrease your resistance to the other person being as he/she is, and since on a spiritual or psychic level, you are connected to, intermingling and one with him or her, change is likely to occur in his universe as well.

14. Find out from your partner the ways that he would prefer that you showed that you really cared. Write these down. Then, for each caring item, find the limiting beliefs that you have which would inhibit you from showing that you cared in this way.

15. Find the limiting beliefs that you may have about working out with your partner a breakdown of the responsibilities, which each of you can assume.

16. What limiting beliefs do you have which would limit or cause you not to carry out your responsibilities?

17. What limiting beliefs do you have that limit the degree and amount that you acknowledge your partner for his contribution?

18. What limiting beliefs do you have about having and strengthening your relationship?

19. What interferes with or reduces the intimacy of your relationship? What limiting beliefs might you have, particularly about yourself which would cause this? Might you have beliefs such as I am shallow, I'm guilty, I'm unfeeling, I'm bad or evil, I'm self-centered, I'm isolated, he would be let down if he saw my dark side, I must protect my image, etc.

20. What outside factors impinge on or interfere with your relationship? What are your limiting beliefs regarding these factors? What are your limiting beliefs which are causing you to allow or create these interfering factors. If the interference is from others, then, as in 13 above, be the other person, find his limiting beliefs. Then go to the room of beliefs while imagining being him, and change them to positive ones.

21. What limiting beliefs are keeping you from creating your relationship fully and completely?

22. What limiting beliefs do you have that keeps budgeting and living within your agreed upon budget from being effective?

23. What limiting beliefs does your partner have about budgeting and living within your agreed upon budget. As in 13. above, visualize being your partner and as your partner go to the room of beliefs and change his limiting beliefs to positive ones.

24. What are the upsets that occur in your relationship? For each one that you think of, ask what are my limiting beliefs regarding this? Do I have beliefs of having to control, of knowing best, etc? If so, identify and change them?

25. What do you have to control in your relationship? If a person believed that he had to control, what might he believe about trust of self, of others or of the universe?

26. What are your requirements to be willing to receive from your partner? What can't you easily receive from him or her? What are your limiting beliefs that inhibit you from receiving? What are your limiting beliefs regarding receiving?

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANOTHER'S BELIEFS

After you have found and changed your limiting or negative beliefs about yourself and your relationship, a further action can be helpful. When there is a problem in a relationship, each person is likely to have beliefs and attitudes which are not agreeable to the other, and which are being resisted. Since people in a relationship are connected by their vibrations, and respond to each other's, vividly imagine being the other person and what his or her beliefs may be. Then, as that person, use the procedure to change his or her limiting or negative ones to unlimiting or positive ones.

This can have two effects. One is to provide positive vibrations for the other; and quite possibly reduce your resistance to his or her beliefs. This will reduce or eliminate the problem.

This same procedure can be used in any situation in life, or to reduce tensions in other parts of the world.




APPENDIX H
LIMITING BELIEFS THAT MAY BE PRODUCING ANXIETY

Anxiety has various causes. Finding and changing the beliefs that relate to the probable mental causes can help alleviate the anxiety. Some of the probable causes and beliefs which may relate to them are:

1. Undefined anger, hurt, fear or pity which has not been admitted or expressed. Some appropriate questions to discover beliefs relating to this are of the following type: What would someone likely believe about himself to feel angry, hurt, fear or pity. Might his beliefs be:

(a) I am powerless.

(b) I'm a victim.

(c) I deserve to be pitied.

(d) It's dangerous to express feelings.

(e) I am defenseless.

(f) I can't stand up for myself.

(g) I'd be punished if I expressed my anger.

(h) I might lose control if I expressed my feelings.

(i) Feelings must be controlled.

(j) It's not OK to have negative feelings.

2. Another possible cause is excitement that isn't being expressed: Pertinent questions might be: To not express excitement, would someone be likely to believe:

(a) It's dangerous to express excitement.

(b) I can't tell what's exciting me.

(c) I might lose control if I allowed myself to really get excited.

(d) Expressing excitement isn't cool.

(e) Excitement never lasts.

(f) I can't trust myself.

3. Another possible cause is to have inappropriate trust: Pertinent questions might be: What would someone be likely to believe to trust inappropriately?

(a) I have poor judgement.

(b) I can't depend on myself.

(c) I can't trust myself.

(d) I might hurt someone's feeling and lose their affection.

(e) It's bad to make judgements.

(f) Evaluations and judgements are the same.

(g) One should be trusting of others.

4. Another possible cause is the anticipation of humiliation, of rejection, of abandonment or of betrayal: Pertinent questions might be: What would someone be likely to believe to anticipate humiliation, rejection, abandonment or betrayal?

(a) I am vulnerable.

(b) I am unworthy.

(c) My existence, happiness or well being depends on others.

(d) I can't trust myself. (If he can't, he will tend to project this on to others.)

(e) My sense of beingness depends on others acceptance and support.

(f) I am a victim.

5. Expectation of error: Appropriate questions to elicit beliefs which might cause anxiety from this source would be of the type: "What would someone have to believe to expect errors?"

(a) I always screw up.

(b) I can't trust myself.

(c) I'm not in control.

(d) I lack particular abilities.

(e) I am powerless.

(f) I am dumb.

(g) I am unfocused and/or dispersed.

(h) I have to be perfect.

(i) My acceptance depends on my perfection.

(j) Life and/or others are unforgiving.

(k) I can't really count on myself.

APPENDIX I
LIMITING BELIEFS THAT MAY BE CAUSING DEPRESSION

(Note: A doctor should also be consulted in cases of severe depression. The person may have an urgent need for medical attention and/or sedation. Also, a person who is severely depressed may need a safe, quiet and undisturbed environment for a period long enough to become calm and more centered before being able to focus on limiting beliefs.)

Depression is most often caused by layers and layers of anger that seemed too small to deal with, or a person thought they would get into too much trouble by expressing it. If the person doesn't recognize his own anger, or expresses it adequately, he is very likely to project it on others and the world around him, so it may appear to him that the world or others are angry at him. Depression may also be caused by a quick and sudden change, either something undesired or something very much desired. It can also come from false self esteem, i.e. trying to get self esteem from external sources rather than creating it for ones self.

Appropriate questions to find limiting beliefs for depression possibly caused by anger are:

a. What would a person likely believe to suppress his anger?

b. What would a person likely believe to be frustrated within himself?

c. What would a person likely believe to feel the effect of or to be victimized by others? Might he believe that he was powerless, ineffective, a victim, etc?

d. What would a person likely believe to feel rejected? Might he feel worthless, unlovable, undesirable, shallow, etc?

e. What would cause a person to feel anger and/or frustration? What might his beliefs be, particularly about himself, that would cause him to be angry?

f. What aspects of a person's life might feel so out of control that he felt angry? What limiting beliefs might cause this?

Appropriate questions to find the limiting beliefs of a person experiencing depression caused by a quick and sudden change might be:

a. What would a person likely believe to be depressed because of a quick and sudden change?

b. Might he believe that he couldn't cope?

c. Might he believe that he didn't deserve?

d. Might he believe that he was not in control?

e. Might he believe that he was easily overwhelmed?

f. Might he believe that he was powerless?

g. Might he believe that he couldn't trust himself, others or the universe?

h. Might he believe that he couldn't predict?

i. Might he believe that he was at effect?

j. Might he believe that good things never last or failure always follows success?

k. Might he believe that he couldn't adapt to and make the best of new circumstances?

APPENDIX J
LIMITING BELIEFS THAT MAY BE CAUSING A PERSON TO HAVE A LACK OF INTEREST OR DRIVE IN LIFE.

When people have ceased to create interest or drive in life, they are likely to have limiting beliefs causing or contributing to this condition. They may not have identified what really excites them in life. A useful way to assist them is to ask them to list in order of importance the eight or ten things which they consider to be most important to them in life. Then, to compare each one of these items with each of the others so as to insure that they have them in the correct order of importance, i.e. "If I had two but not one would that be OK or if I had one and not two would that be OK, etc?" Adjust the list to get the items in the correct order of importance.

Then ask, what was the most exciting time you have had in your life? When they have thought of one, ask them to recall what occurred at the beginning of that time and to recreate the feeling they had. When they indicate that they have done so, ask, "Why was that feeling important to you?" When they answer, ask, "Does that fit on the list of things that are important to you in life? If so put it on in the appropriate place."

Next, ask them to find another exciting time and when they have to recall the feelings they had at the beginning of it and to recreate those feelings. As before, ask why this feeling was important to them, and where it goes on the list. Then, ask them to put it on the list.

Next, with the list of importances in mind, ask:

1. What would someone have to believe to not pursue what is important to him in life?

2. What would someone likely believe that would thwart him from pursuing his excitement line in life?

3. Who might someone be punishing by not pursuing his excitement line in life? What beliefs might a person have to do this?

4. What script might someone be following to not pursue his excitement line in life? On what limiting belief might this script be based? In this sense a script may be based on some tacit agreement that a person may have made, awarely or unawarely to limit him or herself in life or to follow a particular pattern, i.e. "I'll never be better than you or never be happy or really lead a more exciting life because of (reasons.)"

5. What setbacks in life might cause someone to give up or to not pursue what excites him in life? What beliefs might a person have that would have caused these setbacks?

6. What might someone believe that would make it seem dangerous to pursue one's excitement line in life?

7. Might a person who is not pursuing his excitement line in life believe?

a. I'm too old.

b. Nothing comes easy.

c. Man is destined to struggle.

d. I owe it to others.

e. I don't appreciate things that come too easy.

f. Having excitement and fun is frivolous.

g. I deserve to be punished.

h. I don't trust myself to get excited.

i. I'd expose myself or become vulnerable if I got excited or showed excitement.

j. Excitement and/or emotions are dangerous.

k. I'd lose control if I were excited.

1. Excitement isn't always logical.

m. You can't trust your emotions.

n. I'd let down my guard if I got too excited. .

o. It's not proper to get too excited.

p. I have to stay cool.

q. I might become ill.

APPENDIX K
LIMITING BELIEFS THAT MAY BE CONTRIBUTING TO PHYSICAL PROBLEMS

First, find out what are the person's physical ailments or limiting physical conditions as specifically as possible. Point out to the person that it is important to consult a doctor regarding his physical ailments, and that you are not treating them. However, since limiting beliefs often create stresses which may bring about or prolong physical ailments, finding and changing such limiting beliefs may assist in the healing process.

An excellent source of suggestions regarding the possible relationship between limiting beliefs and undesired bodily ailments is contained in the book, You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. To use it, look up the ailment and opposite it read the probable cause. For example, a probable cause of upper back problems is given as the lack of emotional support, feeling unloved and holding back love.

To find the limiting beliefs one would pose questions based on these probable causes such as:

(a) What might someone believe, particularly about himself, to experience a lack of emotional support?

After getting any limiting beliefs the person might give in answer to this question, one could ask more specific questions such as: "Might someone who was experiencing a lack of emotional support believe that he is emotionally weak or vulnerable, that he can't depend on or trust others for emotional support, that he doesn't deserve emotional support, that he is a victim, that emotions are dangerous, that he is alone, etc.

(b) Then, taking another probable cause of feeling unloved one could ask, "What might someone believe to feel unloved?"

After getting any limiting beliefs that the person might have in answer to this question, one could ask: To feel unloved might someone believe that he is unlovable, or undeserving of love, or guilty, or shameful, or is bad or evil, or is selfish and self-centered, or isn't a worthwhile being, or is untrustworthy, etc. What would someone have to believe, particularly about himself to not receive love, or be willing to receive love?

(c) Next, taking the fourth probable cause, holding back love, one could ask, "What would someone have to believe to hold back love?"

After getting any limiting beliefs that the person might give in answer to this question, one could ask, "Might someone who is holding back love believe that love is dangerous or a trap, that his shallowness might be exposed if he loved and was intimate in love, that he might be hurt, that he would betray love, that he would be rejected, that he would become vulnerable, that he might lose control, etc.

The more that you can 'be' the person with who you are working, and the more imaginative you are in your suggestions of possible beliefs, the more depth and change you are likely to achieve.




APPENDIX L
LIMITING BELIEFS THAT MAY LIMIT CREATIVITY AND WRITING

Limiting beliefs may reduce creativity in the arts and writing. The following questions may elicit these limiting beliefs so that they can be changed.

1. What would someone have to believe about himself to be less creative than he desires?

2. Might a person who is being less creative than desired believe?

a. I don't know if I have what it takes.

b. I am blocked.

c. I don't know what I want to create or express.

d. My work or creations aren't good enough.

e. I lack creativity or a creative imagination.

f. I lack creative energy.

g. I lack motivation and/or excitement.

h. My work isn't appreciated. (Find out what the person doesn't appreciate about himself.)

i. I don't have the right tools or facilities.

j. I lack encouragement or recognition from others. (Find out what the person's motivations are and what are the limiting beliefs and/or messages that he is giving himself.)

k. Is there anything in your life for which your art or writing is a substitute?

3. Ask what limiting beliefs might a person have who is having difficulty marketing or getting acknowledgement for his work? After getting any answer that the person gives, then ask: Might a person who is having difficulty marketing or getting acknowledgement believe:

a. There's no demand for my products or writings?

b. It's difficult or impossible for a new person to get recognized or to find an agent.

c. I don't have the right connections.

d. What I am expressing might be misinterpreted.

e. What I express in my work might reveal too much of me.

f. What I express in my work or writing might offend someone whom I used as a basis for a character.

g. I'm too old, too young, don't have the right background, etc.

h. Criticism of my work would be very depressing. (If so, explore beliefs the person may have which may limit his self esteem or self worth or sense of value as a being.

i. I can't handle publicity or notoriety. (Find out what are the person's limiting beliefs about himself that would cause him to fear notoriety

j. Too much would be expected of me. (Find out what he expects of himself and what limits this.)

k. I'd lose control of my time.

l. I'd run out of things to do or motivation.

m. Success or being in the limelight is dangerous or I'd have difficulty handling it.

n. I can't sustain success, or losses always follow it.

o. I'd lose friends if I were successful.

4. Ask, what limiting beliefs might a person have which would cause him to be unwilling or reluctant to receive recognition, acclaim, acceptance or adequate compensation? Might he believe:

a. That it is demeaning to receive pay.

b. That he hasn't earned it.

c. That he might become commercial.

d. That he might be corrupted.

e. That he might compromise his creative integrity.

f. That he would have to live up to some standard.

g. That he'd lose his privacy.