CHAPTER SEVEN
RESULTS OF CHANGING BELIEFS

When we change our beliefs at a subconscious level, our vibrations and experiences will also change. We will expand. As an example, let me tell you about Ann, whom I first met when she was eleven years old. Her mother called on a Friday morning and said that she wanted to bring Ann in for a session, because she was refusing to go back to public school. As Ann entered the room, I observed that she appeared to be quite open and somewhat plump. Soon after she sat down and responded to my question, "Tell me what is bothering you," she burst into tears and said that she couldn't go back to 'that school.' She went on to say that as soon as she got near or entered the school grounds the boys started pointing their fingers at her and jeering, "Fatty, fatty." Then she'd break down and cry and feel ashamed of herself for having done so. Most of the other girls in the school, she said, came from wealthy families, and were in little cliques which excluded her.

She sobbed again, "I have no real friends, I'm not doing very well in my grades and I hate this school." She went on to say that she had pleaded with her mother to send her to a private school, but her mother told her that she couldn't afford to.

I worked with Ann for an hour. After explaining to her how her beliefs, particularly the ones she had about herself, brought about her experiences in life, I asked her, "What might someone believe about themselves to create or allow these experiences?" She was able to spot several limiting beliefs, such as "I'm dumb," "I'm fat and unattractive," "I don't look good," "I'm not popular," "I'm unlikable," "I'm unlovable," "I don't have enough energy," etc. Then, following my guidance she reprogrammed these negative beliefs in her subconscious to positive ones. At the end of the session she left looking much brighter.

The following week, her mother called and said that Ann seemed to be doing all right in school. Then she put Ann on the phone. "Mark," she said, "I like my school. On Monday, girls who had hardly ever spoken to me before came up and started visiting. I made some new friends."

Nearly four years later at an art show an attractive teenager came up to me and asked, "Do you remember me?" Somewhat nonplussed, I said, "You look familiar, but I'm not sure where we met." She replied, "I'm Ann, and I'm doing very well in school; I'm at the top of my class and studying to be an actress."

Another example is that of Elaine, a lady who had been teaching writing classes in major universities for nearly twenty years, and in the course of that time, had written five novels and many short stories. A few of her stories had been published by small magazines, but never with remuneration, and her novels had gone unpublished. She was highly regarded as an excellent teacher in the universities where she taught, but was personally quite frustrated with the progress of her own writing career.

Sensing her frustration, I invited her to spend a couple of hours on a Sunday afternoon finding and changing any limiting beliefs that she might have regarding getting her works published. She had some inkling of what changing limiting beliefs could do. She knew that the author had worked with his wife to assist her in finding and changing her limiting beliefs about getting her first novel published, and that in spite of what seemed like formidable odds, in getting a first novel published at her age, she'd done so. In fact, in a remarkably short time and without serious effort, she had gotten a good agent, and a major publishing contract with the leading publishing house in the U.S., as well as with ones in England, France, Spain and Italy. So Elaine accepted the offer, and had little difficulty finding limiting beliefs such as I m not good enough." "It's impossible to find a good agent." My writing is too literary for most of the reading public." Publishers rarely if ever accept the work of an unpublished author." or. "Things come hard for me." "I'm not worthy." "I can only live by struggling." "I'm not interesting." "My true feelings which I've revealed in my writings make me vulnerable." "It would be degrading to be regarded as a popular fiction writer." "I don't deserve to be published." "If my friends and/or relatives read my books they might recognize that I'd used them as subjects and be offended. "I have to be careful who reads my books, for they may reveal sensitive aspects of me."

The author guided her in changing each of these limiting beliefs in her subconscious mind to positive ones. At the end of a two hour session, she said that she felt much more optimistic about getting publishing contracts for her work. Four days later she called me. In an an excited voice she said, "Guess what? I got my first check ever for a short story, and it is from a prominent magazine. I had sent it off so long ago that I had almost forgotten about it, and I didn't like it that well anyway. But the editor did, and wants more." Then she added in an incredulous voice, "You won't believe it, but the letter and check were sent the day after our Sunday session. What a coincidence."

Three months later a book publisher contracted to publish one of her novels. Needless to say, she gained a renewed enthusiasm for writing and confidence in being able to get her work published.

Another lady, Margaret, in her late sixties was invited to try some belief change counseling by a concerned friend, who wanted to observe a session. Margaret had had a high degree of interest and enthusiasm for sculpturing and painting earlier in her life, but had lost interest, was discontented with herself and her life and felt dispersed and confused. She said that earlier in her life she had been very creative, but now all that she could do was to copy portraits. During the counseling she changed such limiting beliefs as "I can't break out," "I don't have the creativity and energy that I did when I was young," "I feel locked in," "I don't have what it takes," "my creativity is buried beneath a lot of stuff," "I'm chained," "I can no longer capture the essence of another person," "my style is not free," "painting is boring," "others don't appreciate my work," etc.

About a month after the session Margaret wrote, "I was happy that my friend asked me to have a belief changing session. That happy feeling has changed to thrilled and excited. It is one of the greatest, most productive things I ve experienced in this lifetime. I've been in high action ever since. If you recall, my sculpturing and painting were slow, efforting and I lacked self confidence. Since our session all that has changed. My style is freer, more creative and my speed has increased ten fold."

Jo Ann's experiences are another example of the type of changes that often occur in a person's life as a result of changing limiting beliefs. When she came in to find and change some of her limiting beliefs she had been laid off from a job and felt so crushed that she didn't feel that she could look for another one.

In a two hour session she found and changed such limiting beliefs as "I'm incompetent," "I'm a failure, "I'm too old," "I'm an outcast," "success can't last," "I'm not deserving," "I'm helpless," "I don't have the power to do anything well," "I'm inadequate," "I'm scattered and dispersed," "I don't deserve to do what I really like to do," "having money is corrupting," "I lack self esteem," etc.

She sent me a letter about two weeks later. In it she said, "I left your place feeling hundreds of times better that when I walked in. Not only had I released grief but I had changed many of my negative beliefs to positive ones in my subconscious. One of my new and changed beliefs was that I could get a job that I would love and keep it. It was early December (and the general societal belief is that December is amongst the worst times of the year to look for a job.) Within two week I had two excellent job offers, from which I selected one. I had written about twenty fob search letters and received responses from over half of them.

"I accepted a job and started the day after Christmas. Within two weeks I received a promotion. My boss told me that I was all she had hoped for--and more. For the first time in years I am in a job position that I love, with an open-ended career opportunity. I attribute this situation to changes in my attitude which occurred in the brief session. Furthermore, I've not 'come down.' The positive attitude and the increased self esteem remain."

Robert had achieved considerable success in his business, but in the last year he exclaimed that what had seemed to be a prospering and exciting future, appeared to be in shambles at his feet. He went on to describe his life at that point as a continuous series of ever growing, life threatening disasters.

While he was in the midst of these crises he worked with the author in finding and changing his limiting beliefs. He located some which seemed to be "forcing him toward disaster against his will." He handled several of them in the session and then continued to find and change many more on his own and with his wife who also learned how to find and change limiting beliefs. As a result, within six weeks he had more business than he could easily handle, and had six to eight months full time production scheduled. He described the belief finding and changing approach as a wonderful life changing system.

Jim, who managed a company, felt tired, overworked and that he had to make all the decisions. After finding and handling a number of his limiting beliefs he wrote: "My attitudes and beliefs about my work and enjoyment of it have changed. Before, I felt that my staff had limited responsibility and were entitled to unload on me the problems which in their assessment were too hard for them; i.e. "this is a matter for the boss to decide."

"They all recognize now that I am the one who decides if and when the "boss steps in." They know that the "buck" does not stop with me. The "buck" on decision making is now taken by them; and what is more important, they are confident that I will support their decision (without remonstration) if it appears or proves to be the wrong one."

"This has generated a sense of freedom for me which is reflected in them. The most significant new belief in this category is "I AM STRONG, NOW!"

"I am still experiencing changes in my life from the work that I did at your beliefs changing seminar. The results of this work is quite different from other things I have done in the past. Many times one experiences the rocket blast phenomenon where you think you are going straight to the heavens only to find yourself in the pits a few weeks or months later. Working with the belief structure, I found the effect to be quite different. It appears to have simply put me on a different trajectory. It has been several months since the seminar, but I find that my life is changing; sometimes I have to step back to remind myself of the old versus the new and it seems at times like I am actually comparing my life to the life of another."

"There are many areas of life that I am exploring now that I wouldn't have considered before, and I find that I very much prefer many of them. I am now tied into a very strong leading energy that is opening up new opportunities to me daily and giving me peace of mind and a confidence that I have not known in years--it's a delight to wake up and see what is up next--and worry very little, if at all about it. I simply know that it will all work out. (Remember I'm the guy that had to be in control all of the time.)"

F.R.

See additional belief changing experiences under testimonials.