REALIZING OUR DREAMS

HOW TO BECOME THE YOU YOU REALLY WANT TO BE

MARK JONES and PATRICIA COLLETTE, Ph.D.

Copyright 1992 by Mark Jones and Dr. Patricia Collette

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Evolvement Publications
P. O. Box 39422
Los Angeles, CA. 90039

Realizing our dreams: how to become the you you really want to be / Mark Jones, Patricia Collette

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 0 686 36407 4

1. Self actualization (Psychology) I. Collette, Patricia, 1943 II Title.

BF637.S4J66 1992 158.1

QB192 1023

ABOUT THE AUTHORS

MARK JONES

Mark Jones is an experienced counselor with over twenty five years of practical experience. He has worked extensively with individuals in assisting them to achieve higher states of ability and effectiveness, and improved relationships. He has also worked effectively in establishing rehabilitation programs in communities and penal institutions in the U. S. and Europe.

Mark's early training was at M.I.T. where he received his M.S. degree. In early 1960 he commenced his psychology training at George Washington University and completed it in England.

Previously he coauthored a book, THE LOVING CONTRACT with Dr. Collette and wrote a book, DRUGS, THE MIND AND YOU. Currently he is writing a book for children to provide guidance for their basic character development and orientation in life.


PATRICIA COLLETTE, Ph.D.

Dr. Collette is a clinical psychologist who has been in private practice as a psychotherapist for over twenty years. She is one of the pioneers in the Human Potential Movement and has been researching transformational techniques since 1969. She is also a seminar leader, the founder of the Heaven On Earth Foundation and creator of the Fulfillment Process.

Dr. Collette's primary interest is centered around spiritually oriented techniques including working with and transforming sub-personalities so that they align with and assist the higher self to achieve its goals. She particularly enjoys helping people make their dreams come true.


PREFACE

There are a wide spectrum of approaches and therapies available to assist individuals in achieving greater success and fulfillment in their lives. These vary widely both in their potential for depth of exploration, and in the time required to achieve a desired level of change and insight.

One category of approaches is based on the premise that it is necessary for a person to identify, examine, discharge and align traumatic incidents of the past in order to bring about changes in present time. Another category is comprised of approaches which primarily focus on existing psychic states in present time to bring about changes. The various forms of meditation are perhaps the oldest of these. Meditation can and does enable individuals to achieve significant changes. Yet, some find meditation to be too time consuming; and sometimes difficult for them to maintain the focus necessary to achieve the specific changes they desire. Another category which is often used effectively is through visualizing desired states of existence in the future. Its practical effectiveness appears to depend on a person's degree of intention, ability to focus psychic energy and the extent of one's subconscious counter creations.

In the last forty years, insights from quantum physics and other sources, have been integrated with the wealth of philosophical data from prior centuries, to provide the basis for an integrated and highly effective approach. It provides a simple and direct means for discharging emotions from the past in conjunction with changing limiting beliefs in the subconscious, and for manifesting visualizations of one's dreams for the future.

The scientific breakthrough that all life forms and matter are connected via their vibrations opened a new window. Looking through this window, it became apparent that our unique vibrations are determined by our self definition and psychic state. These, in turn, are largely a function of our beliefs and the attitudes, thoughts and emotions that arise from them. Thus, particular parts or aspects of the universe resonate or respond to our unique vibrations. In other words, the beliefs and emotions that we subconsciously hold about ourselves, along with the clarity and intensity of our future visualizations determine the realities, circumstances and outcomes we experience in our lives. By observing the feedback that is constantly available from our experiences, our bodies and our emotions, we can tell how we are defining ourselves through our beliefs and their emotional complement. We can also determine which subconsciously held beliefs to change to bring about desired changes in our vibrations and our experiences.

Many of the main structural elements in our governing belief system are likely to have been formed in times of stress or trauma from other's cast off creations, such as destructive emotions and evaluations. This is analogous to building our house out of 'wormy or rotten' materials or creating our symphony with 'out-of-tune' instruments played by inept musicians. Fortunately, by observing our results; our external and internal experiences and conditions; we can identify which beliefs to change in order to produce the states and outcomes we desire.

Thus, by using the ever present feedback of our experiences in present time, we can change our self definition and our vibrations. As we use this feedback to spot the limiting beliefs by which we are defining and creating our self image, and discharge the emotions connected to them, our vibrations and psychological states change. Then, as we visualize the future states we desire, the probability of realizing our dreams increases dramatically.

This approach offers an efficient means for people to change their unwanted internal and external conditions. It can augment meditation by providing a specific focus to eliminate distractions and providing timely and concrete feedback that desired changes have occurred. It provides a means to release emotional fixations on traumatic incidents of the past, and to create more positive visualizations for the future. While it is of great value in improving the quality of life and outcomes for virtually anyone, it is a particularly useful and practical approach for use in the high intensity world in which we live. It is also quite effective when used in conjunction with other approaches.

From our years of experience in guiding ourselves and others toward achieving greater fulfillment in life, the greatest challenge we appear to face is that of more fully realizing our potentials. Obviously each of us has unique potentials that can be expressed on many levels from the physical, to the emotional, to the mental and to the spiritual.

There are many workable approaches toward recognizing and achieving more of our potential and attaining a greater degree of fulfillment. Some embrace a wider spectrum of existence than others. While the amount of time and effort required for a person to achieve a desired level of growth using any particular approach varies from individual to individual, some techniques enable a person to address basic issues more directly, and require less time and effort. One such approach, which facilitates personal growth and expansion over a wide spectrum in a minimum amount of time, is based on enabling an individual to find and change his limiting beliefs. These are a major cause of a person not recognizing and/or achieving his full potential.

How a person conceives of himself, perceives others and views experiences in life depends on his beliefs. What a person believes to be possible is a major factor in determining the scope of his aspirations, and in realizing them. They are also a determining factor in what experiences an individual will create or allow. Thus the extent of a person's achievement and fulfillment in life is a function of his beliefs.

Unlike many approaches, which require a person to find the source of undesired or limiting conditions in the past, the technique of identifying and handling limited beliefs utilizes the ever present feedback of experiences in the present to enable a person to find and transform his limiting beliefs to positive ones. Thus, it requires far less time to find and change the restrictive or inhibiting factors in one's life, and enables a person to make deep and basic changes.

This book is intended to enable you, the reader, to gain a new and deeper perspective of how you are creating your life, and to become familiar with a means of changing the conditions and limiting factors in it. It provides an effective means for you to achieve more of your aspirations, and a greater degree of fulfillment in life.

In reading this book it can be very helpful to record in a notebook the beliefs you change and the results you observe, and to actually do the exercises where indicated. This will provide a clearer perspective of your aspirations and focuses in life, and identify how to eliminate the factors impeding them.

We initially wrote this book with care to honor the female gender, by including both he and she wherever the third person was used. However, in doing so, we found that it made the reading cumbersome. So, in the interest of making the reading flow easier, we rewrote the text in one gender, trusting that the reader would understand that when "he" is used, it refers to a person, and not just the male gender.